Fostering Healthy Relationships Through Boundary Setting and Self-Care with Olivia Verhulst

Date: April 3, 2024 Duration: 33:17 min

Self-care and boundaries are ever-evolving, just as our identity evolves!

Olivia Verhulst is a psychotherapist, adjunct professor, Forbes Health Advisor and She Leads LIVE conference speaker. With a strong focus on self-care and boundaries, Olivia believes it is important to allow ourselves to have needs and address them. Self-care is a deep-rooted sense of what it is to care for ourselves, and we need to allow ourselves to make decisions that align with nourishing self-preservation boundaries.

Olivia teaches that while boundaries can sometimes be scary to implement, they are, in fact, what keeps us close to others. Setting boundaries in our lives allows us to place limits in our relationships and to create a space within which we can show up genuinely and authentically without running the risk of overextending ourselves.

Be willing to hear what it is that you are telling yourself, and then show up for yourself!


🎤 Olivia met Bonnie at the She Leads LIVE 2023 conference, where she gave a speech about self-care. 3:07

⚠️ Self-care is really about the purpose and context, not Spa trips and massages. 4:47

👉 The desire to constantly try to be perfect comes from a sense of inadequacy. 07:08

🤔 Boundaries are scary for many, but they’re the thing that keeps us close to others. 10:06👀 Resentment can inform us about what’s going on inside of us. 13:15

🫂 Intimacy involves being truly seen and known by another. 18:21

🗣️ People are not mind readers: when we communicate with them, we name our limits in relationships. 21:22

🌸 Our identity is ever-evolving, and thus, so are our boundaries. 26:40

😇 Being willing to hear what you’re telling yourself:  permitting yourself to be a needy human. 29:39

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