Remembering 3 Things When Negotiating With Family During the Holidays

2019-12-03T21:45:27+00:00

Negotiating where to go, which family to see, which traditions to include and what to leave out on the holidays can be tricky.  Whether you are married or in a relationship that requires deciding which family you see for which holiday, or having to travel and needing to decide where and when to arrive, we can all be left feeling pushed and pulled in many directions.  Feelings can get hurt, expectations aren’t always met and in the end, managing it all can almost spoil the entire season. Years ago when I lived close to my family, we would end up [...]

Remembering 3 Things When Negotiating With Family During the Holidays2019-12-03T21:45:27+00:00

Out Of Your Comfort Zone

2019-11-05T21:28:42+00:00

Brene Brown describes the phrase “comfort zone” as “where our uncertainty, scarcity, and vulnerability are minimized-where we believe we will have access to enough love, food, talent, time, admiration.  Where we feel we have some control.” When described like that, it is no wonder that we don’t like to leave this special place called the “comfort zone”.   Why would we intentionally challenge ourselves to move beyond where we feel we are safe and loved?   Lately I’ve been feeling challenged by a few things and my anxiety is telling me to stay clear of anything new.  I have pages full of [...]

Out Of Your Comfort Zone2019-11-05T21:28:42+00:00

Breakups Top Tip #7 Lessons Learned

2019-07-31T02:27:30+00:00

My first boyfriend was 6 years older than me and everyone loved him.  My family thought he was good for me because he was stable and kind. My friends were jealous because where their boyfriends were immature kids, my boyfriend lived on his own with a stable job.  He was all of these things and more. He was stable, he was kind and he was mature. He would take me shopping and he loved nothing more than to buy me a new outfit. He had a second car that was a volkswagon bug and he patiently taught me how to [...]

Breakups Top Tip #7 Lessons Learned2019-07-31T02:27:30+00:00

Top Tip #6 Take Care of Yourself

2019-07-30T01:56:17+00:00

Immediately after a break up it is very common for us to go through a difficult time.  We may feel stunned and disconnected from reality a bit. We may find our passion for things is greatly reduced.  We may not feel excited about things as much and notice our energy level is much lower than normal. People describe wanting to sleep more, not sleep at all, drink more, eat more or not eat at all, and a loss of interest in day to day activities. On paper these symptoms mirror depression in many cases.  For most of us these feelings [...]

Top Tip #6 Take Care of Yourself2019-07-30T01:56:17+00:00

Breakup Tip #5 Unhelpful Inner Voice

2019-07-28T21:26:45+00:00

We all have that internal voice that speaks to us.  Sometimes it can be helpful and be a guiding force in what choice to make in a situation.  Other times it can be a running dialog of unhelpful chatter in our head that keeps us from making a decision.   Is your internal voice filled with negative and judgmental statements about you?  Are you thinking about all of the ways that you screwed up or didn’t live up to expectations?  I don’t know about you, but my internal voice at 2am is frequently quite negative and unhelpful.  It confuses me, plays [...]

Breakup Tip #5 Unhelpful Inner Voice2019-07-28T21:26:45+00:00

Breakup Tip #3 Acceptance

2019-07-27T01:37:37+00:00

Change is hard at any time.  We tend to avoid it because it brings up our insecurities and can require large amounts of confidence.  When we are contemplating making a change we may question our ability to handle the change we are considering.  A new job, a move, and even a hairstyle change can provoke anxiety. So add change into the mix when we are going through a breakup and we can be frozen and indecisive.  Most of us aren’t feeling our most confident or secure when a relationship is ending. We can vacillate between thinking we are doing the [...]

Breakup Tip #3 Acceptance2019-07-27T01:37:37+00:00

Therapy? 4 Mental Health Facts You Must Know

2019-04-07T20:12:32+00:00

When I was 15 years old I was sent to see a psychologist.  Although it wasn’t my idea, my family situation was complicated and as I remember it the adults in my life thought it might be helpful.  I wasn’t exactly against the idea, and I do remember being curious to see what was “supposed” to happen to me during this thing called “therapy”.   My therapist was a very nice man who was kind and he listened to my teenage self try to make sense of my fears and confusion at the time.  What was different about talking with [...]

Therapy? 4 Mental Health Facts You Must Know2019-04-07T20:12:32+00:00

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