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2105, 2024

Quieting the Anxious Voices in Our Heads

By |May 21, 2024|Categories: Blog|

We all have that little voice inside our heads. You know the one – the one that questions everything, the one that turns minor problems into catastrophes, the one that keeps you awake at night replaying conversations and imagining worst-case scenarios. These anxious voices can be incredibly intrusive, but the good news is that there are ways to quiet them down. Let's explore how to deal with these pesky [...]

1405, 2024

Insights from a Mental Health Psychologist: Navigating Life’s Challenges

By |May 14, 2024|Categories: Blog|

In the maze of life's challenges, our mental health often serves as the compass guiding us through. Yet, it's all too easy to lose sight of that compass amidst the chaos. This is where the expertise of a mental health psychologist shines through. Dr. Bonnie Wims, a seasoned mental health psychologist, brings forth invaluable insights and strategies to help individuals navigate life's tumultuous waters with resilience and clarity. Understanding the [...]

805, 2024

Is Therapy Worth the Cost?

By |May 8, 2024|Categories: Blog, Therapy|

Is Therapy Worth the Cost? Exploring the Value Amidst Other Priorities In a world where every dollar counts and financial decisions are scrutinized, choosing where to spend our money can feel like a high-stakes balancing act. Among the multiple expenses vying for attention, one question often arises: Is therapy worth the cost? It's a question that goes beyond financial considerations, probing into the realm of personal well-being and mental [...]

205, 2024

Exploring the Effectiveness of Online Therapy Services

By |May 2, 2024|Categories: Blog, Therapy|

In today's fast-paced world, where technology has seamlessly integrated into various aspects of our lives, it's no surprise that mental health services have also evolved to meet the demands of the digital age. Among these advancements, online therapy services have gained significant traction, offering accessible, convenient, and effective solutions for those seeking professional mental health support. In this comprehensive exploration, we delve into the effectiveness of online therapy services, shedding [...]

1604, 2024

The Role of a Mental Health Coach in Your Wellness Journey

By |April 16, 2024|Categories: mental health, mental wellness|

In the ever-evolving mental health awareness, individuals are increasingly seeking holistic approaches to wellness. While therapy and medication remain vital tools, many are discovering the profound benefits of mental health coaching. In this blog post, we delve into the role of a mental health coach in your wellness journey, exploring how they can provide guidance, support, and empowerment. As we navigate the complexities of modern life, having a trusted [...]

1204, 2024

Breaking the Stigma: Let’s Talk About Mental Health

By |April 12, 2024|Categories: Blog, Emotional Pain, fear, mental wellness, Psychology, stigma, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

In a world that often celebrates physical health and strength, conversations about mental health can still be met with silence or discomfort. The stigma surrounding mental health issues persists, creating barriers to seeking help and support for those who need it most. But it's time to change that narrative. It's time to break the stigma and open up honest, compassionate discussions about mental health. First and foremost, let's acknowledge [...]

2803, 2024

Helping a friend who may be experiencing depression or anxiety

By |March 28, 2024|Categories: anxiety, Blog|

In today's fast-paced world, it's not uncommon for people to experience feelings of depression and anxiety. For our friends who are struggling, reaching out and offering support can make a world of difference. However, sometimes our efforts may not be enough, and professional intervention becomes necessary. Referring our friends who are expressing their pain to therapy can be a crucial step in helping them navigate their mental health challenges. [...]

2103, 2024

Effective Strategies for Managing Depression and Anxiety: Insights from Therapists

By |March 21, 2024|Categories: anxiety, Blog|

In the bustling world we live in, where demands seem to multiply by the day, it's not uncommon to find oneself battling with feelings of depression and anxiety. These mental health struggles can impact every aspect of life, from relationships to work performance and overall well-being. However, there is hope. With the guidance of mental health professionals like Dr. Bonnie Wims, individuals can learn effective strategies to manage and overcome [...]

1303, 2024

Fight Like Hell

By |March 13, 2024|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, Emotional Pain, fear, Meaning, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy, worry|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

When I was 6 years old I had a decision to make. I could choose to accept my situation, an abusive and alcohol fueled violent home that left in its wake insecurity, trauma and worst of all, victimhood. Or I could fight like hell. I chose the latter. I remember that evening as a little girl listening to the latest rage filled tirade by my father as I cowered [...]

503, 2024

Understanding the Benefits of Online Mental Health Counseling

By |March 5, 2024|Categories: Blog, mental health|

In today's fast-paced world, prioritizing mental health has become more crucial than ever before. With the rise of online mental health counseling services, such as those provided by Dr. Bonnie Wims & Associates, accessing professional support has never been easier. In this comprehensive guide, we delve into the benefits of online mental health counseling and how it can positively impact individuals seeking support for their mental well-being. Understanding Online Mental [...]

2802, 2024

Understanding Worry and Anxiety: Symptoms and Treatment

By |February 28, 2024|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, Meaning, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy, worry|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Worry and anxiety are common experiences, but they differ in intensity, duration, and impact on daily life. Understanding the differences can help individuals recognize when these feelings may be more than just temporary concern. In this blog post, we explore the symptoms of worry and anxiety, as well as practical treatment options. Worry: - Response to stressful or uncertain situations: Worry is often a natural response to situations that [...]

1402, 2024

A Woman’s Worth

By |February 14, 2024|Categories: Blog, Coaching, family, fear, Happiness, meaning, Meaning, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Relationships, Resilience, self doubt|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Perhaps we’ve been set up. We women have been groomed to be of service to others. So we take up that torch and we march into battle. We cook, clean, nurture, wipe a tear, wash the clothes and keep a tidy house. We learn to get fulfillment from these tasks. We have to otherwise we would cry. We train ourselves to get jazzed up about a clean toilet or [...]

3101, 2024

Navigating Your Career: Speaking Up and Getting What You Deserve

By |January 31, 2024|Categories: Blog, Coaching, fear, Happiness, meaning, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

In today's work world, standing up for yourself and asking for what you've earned is very important. Whether you're eyeing a promotion, a fair raise, or the resources you need, speaking up can make a big difference. But, let's be real, it's not always easy. Some women worry about seeming too pushy or aggressive, and that worry can hold them back from moving forward in their careers and getting [...]

1701, 2024

Balance

By |January 17, 2024|Categories: anxiety, balance, Blog, Coaching, fear, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

In the fast-paced world of professional women, the juggling act of career, family, and personal life often takes a toll on mental health. The number one concern for many women in the workforce is the elusive work-life balance, or rather, the struggle to find equilibrium in a constantly demanding environment. Work-life balance is not just a catchphrase; it's a real and pressing issue that affects the mental well-being of [...]

301, 2024

Why not me?

By |January 3, 2024|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, holiday stress, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

When I was a little girl I used to dream of living in a Manhattan penthouse apartment, miles away from where I grew up. I didn't have a specific plan about what I would be doing for a career or if I would be married or even with a partner. All I knew was that I would live in New York City, high above the street and life would [...]

2012, 2023

I Am Here to Help

By |December 20, 2023|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, holiday stress, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

My name is Dr. Bonnie Wims and I am here to help. Are you still trying to outrun your fear and prove your worth? If so, I see you. I know you. because this was me before I made friends with my demons and put them to work for me. In fact, I moved across the ocean to try and outrun them. But you see, no matter where you [...]

612, 2023

Happy Holiday Movie Time

By |December 6, 2023|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, holiday stress, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

It is that time again where some of us start watching our favorite holiday movies. Do you have a favorite or two? Many of us watch the same movies every year, in spite of knowing the entire plot and many of the lines by heart. Why do we do it? Well research says we do it for a couple of reasons. For some of us the old films trigger [...]

2211, 2023

Jungle Frogs are built different

By |November 22, 2023|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, Resilience, self doubt, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

Let me set the scene for you. I’m in the jungle. I mean the real jungle in Costa Rica. I’m surrounded by strange noises in the dark. I can only see what my small head lamp is illuminating on the trail ahead of me, except for an occasional small light on the path. It is raining. I mean raining. It is more like there is a giant bucket above [...]

2304, 2023

Post Covid

By |April 23, 2023|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, covid, fear, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

In February of 2020 I traveled to London, England where I facilitated several workshops and got a chance to visit with some friends. I used to live in London so it was lovely to visit. The reason I have such a vivid memory of the exact month I traveled is because it was the last time I would travel Pre-Covid, as many of us have begun to refer to [...]

3003, 2023

Do I Have to Feel my Emotions?

By |March 30, 2023|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I remember the day my father died. He had been sick with colon cancer and died quickly in the hospital only a few months after being diagnosed. My relationship with my father at that time was non-existent due to an abusive and alcohol fueled childhood. As an adult I did not include him in my life, and in fact didn’t think about him much at all. However, when he [...]

2302, 2023

Anxiety as a Road Map

By |February 23, 2023|Categories: anxiety, Blog, Coaching, fear, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , |

Ever hear a quiet voice way back in your head that is telling you things aren’t quite right? Maybe it floats in just as you are drifting off to sleep, and suddenly you are awake with a jolt? Or maybe the doubts show up when you are alone and there is no one to drown out the persistent nagging narrative inside your head? Or maybe it shows up whenever [...]

2610, 2020

The Best Version of Me

By |October 26, 2020|Categories: Blog, change, mental health, mental wellness, mindset, positivity, Psychology, self doubt, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

I’ve always said that I learn as much from my clients as they do from me.  The insights people share with me as they work on their mental health often inspire me and I believe help me to improve as a psychologist and a person.  But ever so often people will share their dreams and goals and what they aspire to change and it also motivates me to take [...]

2010, 2020

Hard Wired

By |October 20, 2020|Categories: Psychology|

Is it time to dig deep? A little over a week ago New York City hosted their annual marathon and I felt moved to go watch some of it. I purposely waited until the leaders finished and then I made my way toward Central Park in the early afternoon. As I neared the park, I began to hear the crowd cheering and the volume of people around me [...]

2010, 2020

Fear

By |October 20, 2020|Categories: Psychology|

I'm afraid of boats. The picture here is me on a boat. You might not be able to tell from this picture but I don't like boats. In fact, I am afraid of boats. Well, I'm actually afraid of getting seasick on a boat, which happened to me on a whale watching trip. I was sick and trapped on a boat for hours. So naturally I am afraid [...]

405, 2020

There’s no place like home?

By |May 4, 2020|Categories: expat, global, Home, living abroad, moving|Tags: , , , , , |

THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME? In November of 2005, I left the United States and moved to London.  I can still remember the site of my house in Massachusetts getting smaller and smaller out the back of the taxi window on that early chilly morning.  Although I had been excited and motivated to move, I suddenly had a feeling of dizziness.  As we were driving away from my Massachusetts [...]

2403, 2020

Sunshine, pigeons, and anxiety

By |March 24, 2020|Categories: anxiety, Blog, coping, fear, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , , |

Sunshine Pigeons 3 men standing 6 feet apart from each other having a conversation on the sidewalk Several storefronts closed and dark My view from my home office window is different these days.   Also gone is the sound of constant Manhattan traffic, the seemingly incessant sirens of police and ambulances, voices from commuters walking the sidewalk and the overall hum of a busy city street.  Things are quiet (except [...]

312, 2019

Remembering 3 Things When Negotiating With Family During the Holidays

By |December 3, 2019|Categories: Blog, compromise, family, flexibility, Happiness, holiday stress, meaning, Relationships, tradition|Tags: , , , , , , |

Negotiating where to go, which family to see, which traditions to include and what to leave out on the holidays can be tricky.  Whether you are married or in a relationship that requires deciding which family you see for which holiday, or having to travel and needing to decide where and when to arrive, we can all be left feeling pushed and pulled in many directions.  Feelings can get [...]

2011, 2019

THE ONE THING TO REMEMBER IN ORDER TO THRIVE DURING THE HOLIDAYS

By |November 20, 2019|Categories: anxiety, Blog, family, holiday stress, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , |

Several years ago when I had a young family, I attempted to host an extended family holiday dinner at my house.  This is no small task, as I have 7 siblings and am the second to the youngest with several nieces and nephews too!  I’m not sure what I was thinking about trying to take on this job but there I was, hosting over 25 people for the first [...]

511, 2019

Out Of Your Comfort Zone

By |November 5, 2019|Categories: anxiety, Blog, change, Coaching, comfort zone, fear, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , |

Brene Brown describes the phrase “comfort zone” as “where our uncertainty, scarcity, and vulnerability are minimized-where we believe we will have access to enough love, food, talent, time, admiration.  Where we feel we have some control.” When described like that, it is no wonder that we don’t like to leave this special place called the “comfort zone”.   Why would we intentionally challenge ourselves to move beyond where we feel [...]

1510, 2019

It Doesn’t Mean Anything

By |October 15, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Meaning, Psychology, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , |

It’s Just Not Fair Have you ever said those words to yourself?  Maybe a relationship you cared about ended without warning?  Maybe you lost a job or didn’t get a promotion? Or maybe you just had some bad luck and despite your hard work something failed miserably?   We can struggle during these times and we tell ourselves that it shouldn’t have happened to us because we tried really hard, [...]

810, 2019

Moving

By |October 8, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Moving, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , |

I recently moved house.  Having moved several times before, I felt confident I knew what was ahead of me and thought if I stayed organized and prepared everything would be ok.  Initially things were going well and one by one all of the “to do” items on my list began to be checked off. However, as moves go, it wasn’t without some anxious moments and stressful events.  Having to [...]

3107, 2019

Breakups Top Tip #7 Lessons Learned

By |July 31, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Psychology, Relationships, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

My first boyfriend was 6 years older than me and everyone loved him.  My family thought he was good for me because he was stable and kind. My friends were jealous because where their boyfriends were immature kids, my boyfriend lived on his own with a stable job.  He was all of these things and more. He was stable, he was kind and he was mature. He would take [...]

3007, 2019

Top Tip #6 Take Care of Yourself

By |July 30, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Emotional Pain, Psychology, Relationships, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Immediately after a break up it is very common for us to go through a difficult time.  We may feel stunned and disconnected from reality a bit. We may find our passion for things is greatly reduced.  We may not feel excited about things as much and notice our energy level is much lower than normal. People describe wanting to sleep more, not sleep at all, drink more, eat [...]

2807, 2019

Breakup Tip #5 Unhelpful Inner Voice

By |July 28, 2019|Categories: Blog, Psychology, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

We all have that internal voice that speaks to us.  Sometimes it can be helpful and be a guiding force in what choice to make in a situation.  Other times it can be a running dialog of unhelpful chatter in our head that keeps us from making a decision.   Is your internal voice filled with negative and judgmental statements about you?  Are you thinking about all of the ways [...]

2707, 2019

Breakup Tip #3 Acceptance

By |July 27, 2019|Categories: Blog, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Change is hard at any time.  We tend to avoid it because it brings up our insecurities and can require large amounts of confidence.  When we are contemplating making a change we may question our ability to handle the change we are considering.  A new job, a move, and even a hairstyle change can provoke anxiety. So add change into the mix when we are going through a breakup [...]

2607, 2019

Breakup Tip #2-Be Honest

By |July 26, 2019|Categories: Blog, Relationships|Tags: , |

Have you ever had a good friend break up with someone you couldn’t stand?  Suddenly you feel free to speak truthfully about what you think of that person.  You tell your friend how their ex wasn’t good enough for them and how they always really annoyed you... AND THEN THEY GET BACK TOGETHER!!!! It can be so awkward to have had the honest conversation with someone only to find [...]

2507, 2019

Breakups

By |July 25, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Psychology, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized|

A relationship breakup can be extremely painful and difficult to recover from.  Many of us have gone through it and although there is no one right answer, there are some tips we can all use to help us survive.  I get asked for advice on how to “get over a breakup” frequently and unfortunately there are no easy answers and there is no one way. However, there are things [...]

505, 2019

I can just live with it

By |May 5, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Emotional Pain, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , |

Years ago I began to get a nagging pain in my leg.  At times it would randomly feel better but rarely if ever was the pain completely gone.  Even when the sharp pain wasn’t around, the ache was present, like a shadow or a warning that the pain was still there, waiting to strike when I least expected it. The pain wasn’t remarkable, I’m sure many people have felt [...]

2104, 2019

Is it Happiness I am looking for?

By |April 21, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Happiness, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , |

I woke up happy today.   The feeling of excitement and possibility mixed with a dash of contentment was humming inside my chest when I opened my eyes today.  As I made coffee the feeling continued, making the chore effortless. As the milk warmed and I heard the steady stream of coffee percolating, I took a deep breath and enjoyed the moment.   But then my mind started to [...]

704, 2019

Therapy? 4 Mental Health Facts You Must Know

By |April 7, 2019|Categories: Therapy|Tags: , |

When I was 15 years old I was sent to see a psychologist.  Although it wasn’t my idea, my family situation was complicated and as I remember it the adults in my life thought it might be helpful.  I wasn’t exactly against the idea, and I do remember being curious to see what was “supposed” to happen to me during this thing called “therapy”.   My therapist was a [...]

2403, 2019

Therapist or Life Coach?

By |March 24, 2019|Categories: Blog, Psychology, Therapy, Uncategorized|

The other day I was having a conversation with someone about their therapy experience and I asked them what it was they found most and least helpful about the process.  They shared many useful insights but there was one thing they mentioned that I felt was very interesting. They mentioned they wished they had a therapist that worked both as a therapist and as a life coach.  We went [...]

1003, 2019

Therapy on the go!

By |March 10, 2019|Categories: Uncategorized|

While on a treadmill recently I listened to a podcast, reviewed my emails, and caught up on the family news with my sister.  As I looked around the gym I noticed I wasn’t the only one. Many people were multitasking while exercising and it made me think about how much technology has changed the way we perform our everyday tasks.  We have all adjusted to the convenience of having [...]

2402, 2019

Find Something

By |February 24, 2019|Categories: Therapy|

I was inspired this week by a quote that read in part, “find something deep within yourself that is truly you and cling to it” I wasn’t initially sure why it was so inspiring or why it spoke to me but as I found myself repeatedly going back to re-read the quote, I began to ask myself a few questions. How do I look within myself? How do I [...]

702, 2019

Asking

By |February 7, 2019|Categories: Blog|

I’ve been thinking a lot about asking lately.  Asking for what you need from someone else. I don’t know about you but there are times when I seem to think I should get a badge of honor for going without what I need.  I recently heard myself say, “I’m finally asking because I’m desperate”. Why did I have to get desperate? The problem as I see it is we [...]

1804, 2018

A pit in my stomach…have I done the right thing?

By |April 18, 2018|Categories: Blog|

Moving to another country was filled with many emotions, but for me excitement and anxiety were at the top of the list.  It was a slow build of excitement/anxiety in my belly as I moved toward the big day. Why do you suppose we experience anxiety when we are voluntarily moving?  Is it fear of the unknown or just excitement mixed with fear of change? For me I believe [...]

1603, 2016

There’s no place like home?

By |March 16, 2016|Categories: Therapy|

In November of 2005, I left the United States and moved to London.  I can still remember the site of my house in Massachusetts getting smaller and smaller out the back of the taxi window on that early chilly morning.  Although I had been excited and motivated to move, I suddenly had a feeling of dizziness. As we were driving away from my Massachusetts ‘home’, another part of me [...]

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