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1510, 2019

It Doesn’t Mean Anything

By |October 15th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Meaning, Psychology, Uncategorized|Tags: , , , , , |

It’s Just Not Fair Have you ever said those words to yourself?  Maybe a relationship you cared about ended without warning?  Maybe you lost a job or didn’t get a promotion? Or maybe you just had some bad luck and despite your hard work something failed miserably?   We can struggle during these times and we tell ourselves that it shouldn’t have happened to us because we tried really hard, [...]

810, 2019

Moving

By |October 8th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Moving, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , , |

I recently moved house.  Having moved several times before, I felt confident I knew what was ahead of me and thought if I stayed organized and prepared everything would be ok.  Initially things were going well and one by one all of the “to do” items on my list began to be checked off. However, as moves go, it wasn’t without some anxious moments and stressful events.  Having to [...]

3107, 2019

Breakups Top Tip #7 Lessons Learned

By |July 31st, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Psychology, Relationships, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

My first boyfriend was 6 years older than me and everyone loved him.  My family thought he was good for me because he was stable and kind. My friends were jealous because where their boyfriends were immature kids, my boyfriend lived on his own with a stable job.  He was all of these things and more. He was stable, he was kind and he was mature. He would take [...]

3007, 2019

Top Tip #6 Take Care of Yourself

By |July 30th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Emotional Pain, Psychology, Relationships, Therapy|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Immediately after a break up it is very common for us to go through a difficult time.  We may feel stunned and disconnected from reality a bit. We may find our passion for things is greatly reduced.  We may not feel excited about things as much and notice our energy level is much lower than normal. People describe wanting to sleep more, not sleep at all, drink more, eat [...]

2807, 2019

Breakup Tip #5 Unhelpful Inner Voice

By |July 28th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Psychology, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

We all have that internal voice that speaks to us.  Sometimes it can be helpful and be a guiding force in what choice to make in a situation.  Other times it can be a running dialog of unhelpful chatter in our head that keeps us from making a decision.   Is your internal voice filled with negative and judgmental statements about you?  Are you thinking about all of the ways [...]

2707, 2019

Breakup Tip #3 Acceptance

By |July 27th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Relationships|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Change is hard at any time.  We tend to avoid it because it brings up our insecurities and can require large amounts of confidence.  When we are contemplating making a change we may question our ability to handle the change we are considering.  A new job, a move, and even a hairstyle change can provoke anxiety. So add change into the mix when we are going through a breakup [...]

2607, 2019

Breakup Tip #2-Be Honest

By |July 26th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Relationships|Tags: , |

Have you ever had a good friend break up with someone you couldn’t stand?  Suddenly you feel free to speak truthfully about what you think of that person.  You tell your friend how their ex wasn’t good enough for them and how they always really annoyed you... AND THEN THEY GET BACK TOGETHER!!!! It can be so awkward to have had the honest conversation with someone only to find [...]

2507, 2019

Breakups

By |July 25th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Psychology, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized|

A relationship breakup can be extremely painful and difficult to recover from.  Many of us have gone through it and although there is no one right answer, there are some tips we can all use to help us survive.  I get asked for advice on how to “get over a breakup” frequently and unfortunately there are no easy answers and there is no one way. However, there are things [...]

505, 2019

I can just live with it

By |May 5th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Emotional Pain, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , |

Years ago I began to get a nagging pain in my leg.  At times it would randomly feel better but rarely if ever was the pain completely gone.  Even when the sharp pain wasn’t around, the ache was present, like a shadow or a warning that the pain was still there, waiting to strike when I least expected it. The pain wasn’t remarkable, I’m sure many people have felt [...]

2104, 2019

Is it Happiness I am looking for?

By |April 21st, 2019|Categories: Blog, Coaching, Happiness, Psychology, Therapy|Tags: , , |

I woke up happy today.   The feeling of excitement and possibility mixed with a dash of contentment was humming inside my chest when I opened my eyes today.  As I made coffee the feeling continued, making the chore effortless. As the milk warmed and I heard the steady stream of coffee percolating, I took a deep breath and enjoyed the moment.   But then my mind started to [...]

704, 2019

Therapy? 4 Mental Health Facts You Must Know

By |April 7th, 2019|Categories: Therapy|Tags: , |

When I was 15 years old I was sent to see a psychologist.  Although it wasn’t my idea, my family situation was complicated and as I remember it the adults in my life thought it might be helpful.  I wasn’t exactly against the idea, and I do remember being curious to see what was “supposed” to happen to me during this thing called “therapy”.   My therapist was a [...]

2403, 2019

Therapist or Life Coach?

By |March 24th, 2019|Categories: Blog, Psychology, Therapy, Uncategorized|

The other day I was having a conversation with someone about their therapy experience and I asked them what it was they found most and least helpful about the process.  They shared many useful insights but there was one thing they mentioned that I felt was very interesting. They mentioned they wished they had a therapist that worked both as a therapist and as a life coach.  We went [...]

1003, 2019

Therapy on the go!

By |March 10th, 2019|Categories: Uncategorized|

While on a treadmill recently I listened to a podcast, reviewed my emails, and caught up on the family news with my sister.  As I looked around the gym I noticed I wasn’t the only one. Many people were multitasking while exercising and it made me think about how much technology has changed the way we perform our everyday tasks.  We have all adjusted to the convenience of having [...]

2402, 2019

Find Something

By |February 24th, 2019|Categories: Therapy|

I was inspired this week by a quote that read in part, “find something deep within yourself that is truly you and cling to it” I wasn’t initially sure why it was so inspiring or why it spoke to me but as I found myself repeatedly going back to re-read the quote, I began to ask myself a few questions. How do I look within myself? How do I [...]

702, 2019

Asking

By |February 7th, 2019|Categories: Blog|

I’ve been thinking a lot about asking lately.  Asking for what you need from someone else. I don’t know about you but there are times when I seem to think I should get a badge of honor for going without what I need.  I recently heard myself say, “I’m finally asking because I’m desperate”. Why did I have to get desperate? The problem as I see it is we [...]

1804, 2018

A pit in my stomach…have I done the right thing?

By |April 18th, 2018|Categories: Blog|

Moving to another country was filled with many emotions, but for me excitement and anxiety were at the top of the list.  It was a slow build of excitement/anxiety in my belly as I moved toward the big day. Why do you suppose we experience anxiety when we are voluntarily moving?  Is it fear of the unknown or just excitement mixed with fear of change? For me I believe [...]

1603, 2016

There’s no place like home?

By |March 16th, 2016|Categories: Therapy|

In November of 2005, I left the United States and moved to London.  I can still remember the site of my house in Massachusetts getting smaller and smaller out the back of the taxi window on that early chilly morning.  Although I had been excited and motivated to move, I suddenly had a feeling of dizziness. As we were driving away from my Massachusetts ‘home’, another part of me [...]

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